Bringing home a newborn is an exciting, overwhelming, and life-changing experience. No matter how much you prepare, that first week can feel like a whirlwind of emotions, sleepless nights, and new responsibilities. If you’re a first-time parent, you might be wondering what to expect and how to make things a little easier. Here are some tips and things I wish I knew before my baby arrived.
1. Sleep Will Be a Luxury – But You Can Survive
The biggest adjustment in the first week is the lack of sleep. Newborns typically sleep in short bursts of two to three hours, waking frequently for feedings. You’ll likely feel exhausted, but here are some ways to manage:
- Sleep When the Baby Sleeps: It’s cliché but true. Even a 20-minute nap can help you recharge.
- Take Turns with Your Partner: If possible, alternate shifts so that one of you can get a longer stretch of sleep.
- Create a Comfortable Sleeping Space: Keep your baby close in a bassinet or crib near your bed for easier nighttime feedings.
2. Feeding Can Be Challenging
Whether you choose breastfeeding, formula feeding, or a combination of both, feeding your baby might not be as straightforward as you expect. Here’s what to keep in mind:
- Breastfeeding Takes Practice: It’s normal to struggle at first. Seek help from a lactation consultant if you experience pain, latch issues, or low milk supply.
- Cluster Feeding is Normal: Babies often feed every 1-2 hours during growth spurts. It’s exhausting but temporary.
- Formula Feeding is Also Valid: If breastfeeding doesn’t work out, don’t stress. A fed baby is a happy baby.
3. Your Baby’s Crying is Their Only Way to Communicate
In the first week, it may feel like your baby cries a lot. This is completely normal. They cry because they are hungry, tired, uncomfortable, or just need to be held. Over time, you’ll learn their cues and needs. Try these soothing techniques:
- Swaddle Your Baby: Wrapping them snugly can mimic the womb and help them feel secure.
- Use White Noise: A sound machine or even a vacuum cleaner can be calming.
- Offer Skin-to-Skin Contact: Holding your baby close helps regulate their temperature, breathing, and heart rate.
4. Diaper Changes Are Constant – Be Prepared
Newborns go through 8-12 diapers a day! Be ready for frequent diaper changes by having supplies within reach. Some tips:
- Use Diaper Cream to Prevent Rashes: Newborn skin is sensitive, so apply a barrier cream if needed.
- Expect Frequent Poops: Breastfed babies tend to have mustard-colored, seedy stools, while formula-fed babies may have thicker, darker poops.
- Blowouts Will Happen: Keep extra onesies and changing supplies handy.
5. Hormonal Changes Will Make You Emotional
Postpartum emotions can be intense. You might feel incredibly happy one moment and teary-eyed the next. This is normal as your hormones shift. However, if you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or persistently sad, reach out for support. Postpartum depression is real and treatable.
6. Visitors Can Be Overwhelming
Everyone will want to meet your baby, but you don’t have to entertain guests if you’re not up for it. Set boundaries:
- Limit Visitors: The first week is for healing and bonding.
- Ask for Help, Not Just Visits: If family or friends come over, let them help with chores, cooking, or holding the baby while you shower.
- Don’t Feel Guilty About Saying No: Your well-being comes first.
7. Your Body Needs Time to Heal
Whether you had a vaginal birth or a C-section, your body has gone through a major transformation. Take care of yourself:
- Rest as Much as Possible
- Stay Hydrated and Eat Nutritious Foods
- Don’t Ignore Postpartum Symptoms: Contact your doctor if you experience excessive bleeding, severe pain, or signs of postpartum depression.
8. Trust Your Instincts – You’re Doing Better Than You Think
It’s easy to doubt yourself as a new parent, but trust that you are learning and growing alongside your baby. No one knows your baby better than you do.
Final Thoughts
The first week with a newborn is tough, but it’s also filled with precious moments you’ll cherish forever. Give yourself grace, accept help when needed, and remember that this phase, while exhausting, will pass. You’ve got this!
